Apr 30, 2012 in Lifestyle. 0 Comment
While an optimist says, “This glass is half full,” a pessimist says, “This glass is half empty.” A chronic complainer however, says, “This glass with a small crack holds lukewarm water that’s probably not been treated and contains tons of bacteria that can make people sick, and by the way, I am sick with a cold, probably from this glass of water.” The very essence of a complainer is to announce to the world all the woes and ailments particular to that individual. If you encounter or deal with a chronic complainer on a daily basis, your mood probably shifts violently when they’re around. To keep someone from disrupting your mood every day, follow these essential tips when you have to deal with a chronic complainer.
Tip #1: Step in their shoes
You don’t literally need to step in their shoes, but you should definitely consider where the complainer is coming from. By understanding their mindset you can respond to them in a meaningful way. In general, people who constantly complain won’t necessarily perceive themselves as negative. Rather, they see themselves as fighting a constantly losing battle, where they can never seem to get ahead far enough to make progress. Complaints can stem from a lot of sources, including stress, financial problems, work, family, grief, loneliness, and the list goes on. As you gain insight into a complainer’s life, you may find more compassion within yourself to provide the person support that they can’t seem to find anywhere else.